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Ebook terbaru ini mengandungi 161 mukasurat dengan posisi seks bergambar bersama tips-tips dan panduan untuk kebahagiaan Hubungan Seksual!

Isi Kandungan Utama Ebook Kamasutra Bergambar versi Bahasa Melayu ini

Kamasutra (Seni Berasmara)

Kamasutra adalah sebuah kitab kuno dari India yang ditulis oleh Vatsayana berdasarkan kajian beliau ke atas gerak laku seksual manusia. Kamasutra dikatakan adalah manual seks yang paling tua di dunia...

Ananga Ranga (Peringkat Percintaan)

Ananga Ranga adalah sebuah manual hubungan seks yang ditulis oleh Kalyana Malla pada kurun ke 15. Ramai mengatakan tujuan utama Ananga Ranga ditulis adalah untuk mengelakkan perpisahan antara suami isteri....

Taman Harum (The Perfumed Garden)

"The Perfumed Garden" adalah sebuah manual hubungan seks yang ditulis oleh Muhammad al-Nafzawi sekitar tahun 1410 sehingga 1434. Nama asal manual yang ditulis oleh al-Nafzawi ini ialah "The Perfumed Garden of Sensual Delight" atau dalam bahasa arabnya, "Al-rawd al-'âtir fî nuzhati'l khâtir"....

Tao (Cantuman Asmara)

Manual Seks Taoist dicipta dengan tujuan utama untuk mengekalkan kesihatan pengamal ajaran Taoist. Pengikut-pengikut ajaran Taoist percaya dengan mengamalkan seni-seni ajaran Taoist ketika melakukan hubungan seksual, mereka akan dapat mengekalkan kesihatan luaran dan dalaman, dan jika ditambah dengan senaman-senaman lain, mereka akan dapat melambatkan proses penuaan...

Tanda-tanda kepuasan bagi seorang wanita adalah ketenangan pada reaksi tubuhnya, dan kerelaan sepenuhnya untuk menyatukan "yoni" (faraj) dengan "lingam" (zakar) pasangannya...

Vatsayana (Pengarang Kamasutra)

Anda tidak tahu apa itu Kamasutra, Ananga Ranga, Taman Harum dan Tao?

Kamasutra, Ananga Ranga, Taman Harum dan Tao, adalah Kitab Manual Seks yang ditulis pada zaman kuno, berkurun-kurun lamanya sebelum generasi kita mencelikkan mata di dunia ini.

Kamasutra dan Ananga Ranga adalah Kitab dari India, Taman Harum pula di tulis oleh seorang cendiakawan Arab yang tersohor, dan pengamal amalan seksual Taoist telah membukukan ajaran mereka ke dalam Kitab Tao.

Jadi Ebook Kamasutra Bergambar versi Bahasa Melayu ini mengandungi EMPAT kitab kuno berasingan yang dicantumkan menjadi satu!

Antara posisi-posisi hubungan seks yang terdapat dalam ebook ini ialah:

Posisi Lotus

Si Wanita menyilangkan kakinya dan membawa kakinya hampir kepada perut, Si lelaki kemudiannya memasukkan zakar...

Posisi Pemecah Dara

Dalam posisi ini faraj si wanita berada dalam keadaan yang rapat dan ketat. Si lelaki harus cermat dan...

Posisi Belahan Indra

Si wanita berbaring dengan kedua-dua belah kaki ...wanita digalakkan mengusap buah dada dalam posisi ini untuk...

Posisi Roda Karma

Si lelaki harus kuat memegang badan si wanita dalam posisi ini.... menggerakkan badannya dalam pusingan seperti roda...

Posisi Pelangi

Ini adalah posisi yang unik dan dapat memberikan kenikmatan yang lain daripada yang lain jika dicuba oleh pasangan....

Posisi Ikatan Jed

Diilhamkan dari seni menyambung jed yang penuh dengan ketekunan dan kesenian, si wanita...Si lelaki memasuki wanita dan mengangkat...

Dan banyak lagi Posisi-Posisi Hubungan Seks yang berjumlah 102 POSISI kesemuanya..! (Selepas ni confirm anda tak akan jemu dengan posisi yang sama setiap kali bersama pasangan anda)

Bayangkan apa yang boleh anda lakukan dengan 102 posisi seks yang unik dan tidak pernah anda ketahui wujud sebelum ini!

Mungkin anda perlu membeli katil yang lebih besar selepas membaca ebook ini ;-)

Selain memaparkan 102 POSISI SEKS BERGAMBAR, ebook Kamasutra Bergambar versi Bahasa Melayu ini turut memberikan tips dan panduan seperti:

Zon Hotspot

Ketahui dimanakah bahagian-bahagian yang paling sensitif bagi lelaki dan wanita, dan bagaimana untuk meransang sepenuhnya bahagian-bahagian ini

...Apabila bahagian-bahagian sensitif pada badan diusap... Untuk Lelaki: Ketika pasangan anda mengusap zakar anda, usaplah...Untuk Wanita: Ketika pasangan anda membelai badan anda...

Urutan & Ciuman

Ketahui teknik-teknik urutan yang akan membangkitkan nafsu pasangan anda, dan bagaimana untuk menjadi seorang pakar dalam ciuman

...Salah satu teknik ciuman Kamasutra, Vatsayana mempraktikkan teknik ciuman dengan memegang lembut bahagian...

Mandi Kucing

Ini bukan teknik untuk memandikan kucing, tetapi teknik memandikan pasangan anda menggunakan lidah. Jangan terkejut bila melihat pasangan anda mengeliat kesedapan bila anda menggunakan teknik ni

...Biarkan air liur anda bercampur dengan peluh pasangan anda apabila anda bergilir-gilir menjilat dan menghembus tubuh badan...

Penetrasi Lidah

Mat saleh panggil "oral sex", tetapi teknik ni dah lama wujud. Ketahui teknik asal yang belum pernah anda ketahui wujud

...Untuk Wanita: Pegang zakar pasangan anda dengan lembut dan cium zakar pasangan anda. Cium perlahan-lahan...

Teknik Tusukan

Jangan ingat asal boleh masuk dah ok. Terdapat banyak lagi teknik tusukan yang boleh anda aplikasikan kepada isteri anda. Ketahui "the best of the best" dalam panduan ini

Vatsyayana telah memberikan beberapa teknik tusukan zakar untuk membolehkan zakar bertindak untuk memberikan kepuasan maksima kepada pasangannya.Berikut ialah beberapa teknik tusukan yang disyorkan dalam ajaran Kamasutra...

Urutan Dalaman

Untuk perempuan pun ada. Ketahui bagaimana untuk mengurut zakar pasangan anda dengan hanya menggunakan otot-otot faraj anda. Rugi kalau tak tahu teknik ni.

Vatsayana menggalakkan si wanita memicit dan mengurut zakar si lelaki dengan menggunakan otot-otot di dalam faraj. Untuk melakukan urutan ini...

Dan banyak lagi TIPS, TEKNIK dan PANDUAN yang terdapat dalam ebook ini, sesuai untuk lelaki dan juga wanita.

TIPS, TEKNIK dan PANDUAN yang saya masukkan dalam ebook ini adalah pilihan terbaik yang dipilih dari Kitab Kuno Kamasutra, Ananga Ranga, Taman Harum dan Tao.

Dari memberhentikan usapan dan gentelan pada klitoris selepas si dia mencapai ejakulasi, teruskan usapan tersebut dan lihat apa yang bakal terjadi...

Kalyana Malla (Pengarang Ananga Ranga)

161 Mukasurat, Panduan dan Tips dari Kitab-kitab kuno yang telah terbukti keberkesanannya, 102 Posisi Bergambar dengan penerangan dan panduan dalam Bahasa Melayu..

Saya Berminat! Bagaimana saya nak dapatkan Ebook ni?

Anda boleh mendapatkan Ebook Kamasutra Bergambar versi Bahasa Melayu ini melalui pautan di bawah, tetapi tunggu...

Sempena pelancaran Ebook pertama saya, saya dengan berbesar hati ingin memberikan lagi ilmu-ilmu berkaitan hubungan seksual kepada anda dengan kos yang tidak masuk akal!

Nikmati Malam Bersama

MALAM pertama adalah satu cabaran jika pasangan berkenaan tidak berpengalaman ‘bermain cinta’. Jika pasangan wanita selama ini menyimpan kesuciannya untuk jejaka idaman, pasti malam pertama memberi makna kepadanya apabila dapat memberi anugerah yang sangat bernilai itu kepada pasangannya dan mereka mengecapi gelora malam berkenaan.

Namun, perlu diingatkan kepada wanita supaya tidak perlu takut atau ‘seriau’ dengan ‘pelayaran’ malam pertama kerana ia akan memberi tekanan kepada dirinya dan juga pasangan. Sebaik-baiknya, mereka melayani dengan mengikut jejak langkah dan memberi kerjasama kepada pasangan supaya sentuhan malam pertama berjalan lancar.

Seseorang wanita juga perlu bersabar jika tidak disentuh pada malam pertama kerana mungkin pasangan mereka masih dalam peringkat menyesuaikan diri atau terasa letih dan lesu selepas proses perkahwinan.

Jika keadaan mengizinkan, hubungan keintiman seksual dilakukan dan sentuhan malam pertama akan berlaku, tetapi pasangan wanita perlu tahu fungsinya apabila pasangan mereka mendekati dan mula menyentuh tubuh sambil melucutkan pakaiannya sehelai demi sehelai.

Dia boleh membantu pasangannya bersedia dengan menyentuh mengikut keselesaan pasangannya. Menyentuh anggota sulit pasangan ketika itu mungkin mengakibatkan pasangan hilang kawalan syahwat dan boleh menyebabkannya terpancut.

Apabila sentuhan intim berjalan hingga ke peringkat pasangan lelaki hendak mendekatkan ereksinya ke paras anggota sulit, pasangan wanita perlu melegakan pahanya bagi memudahkan proses berkenaan.

Paling penting ketika malam pertama ialah pasangan wanita perlu melegakan kemut bagi membolehkan ereksi lelaki dapat terlepas daripada ‘penahan’ iaitu selaput dara yang mengelilingi pembukaan faraj.

Jika terasa kesat untuk permulaan, geselan boleh dilakukan secara lembut dan sentuhan tubuh badan dilakukan serentak supaya rangsangan berlaku dan mukosa faraj menjadi lebih lembap serta memudahkan pergerakan zakar ke dalam faraj.

Andainya masih juga kesat, tidak salah untuk pasangan berkenaan menggunakan jeli bagi memudahkan lagi kemasukan zakar ke dalam faraj kerana apabila sudah ‘mengenali’ sentuhan pertama itu, mereka akan rasa yakin dan tidak teragak-agak mengulanginya mengikut kehendak dan cita rasa mereka.

Bagaimanapun, perlu diingatkan bahawa masalah boleh berlaku. Pasangan lelaki boleh terasa tertekan atau cemas kerana memikirkan tanggungjawab yang hendak dilakukannya, iaitu hubungan penetratif.

Jika berasa seriau, pasangan lelaki akan mudah hilang kawalan dan perasaan rangsangan menyebabkan ereksi yang membina itu terus kendur, sekali gus dia gagal melakukan tanggungjawab malam pertama kepada pasangannya.

Keadaan ini dikenali sebagai ‘mati pucuk malam pertama’. Perkara sama boleh berlaku kepada pasangan wanita. Jika seriau, dia tidak dapat mengawal pembukaan faraj dan ketika pasangan ingin menyalurkan ereksi, farajnya akan mencengkam tanpa kawalan yang dikenali ‘vaginismus’.

Petikan artikel:http://www.isteripuas.com

Nikmati hubungan seks yang luar biasa...isteri anda pasti tersenyum riang disamping mu..

Debaran Malam Pertama

MALAM pertama adalah satu cabaran jika pasangan berkenaan tidak berpengalaman ‘bermain cinta’. Jika pasangan wanita selama ini menyimpan kesuciannya untuk jejaka idaman, pasti malam pertama memberi makna kepadanya apabila dapat memberi anugerah yang sangat bernilai itu kepada pasangannya dan mereka mengecapi gelora malam berkenaan.

Namun, perlu diingatkan kepada wanita supaya tidak perlu takut atau ‘seriau’ dengan ‘pelayaran’ malam pertama kerana ia akan memberi tekanan kepada dirinya dan juga pasangan. Sebaik-baiknya, mereka melayani dengan mengikut jejak langkah dan memberi kerjasama kepada pasangan supaya sentuhan malam pertama berjalan lancar.

Seseorang wanita juga perlu bersabar jika tidak disentuh pada malam pertama kerana mungkin pasangan mereka masih dalam peringkat menyesuaikan diri atau terasa letih dan lesu selepas proses perkahwinan.

Jika keadaan mengizinkan, hubungan keintiman seksual dilakukan dan sentuhan malam pertama akan berlaku, tetapi pasangan wanita perlu tahu fungsinya apabila pasangan mereka mendekati dan mula menyentuh tubuh sambil melucutkan pakaiannya sehelai demi sehelai.

Dia boleh membantu pasangannya bersedia dengan menyentuh mengikut keselesaan pasangannya. Menyentuh anggota sulit pasangan ketika itu mungkin mengakibatkan pasangan hilang kawalan syahwat dan boleh menyebabkannya terpancut.

Apabila sentuhan intim berjalan hingga ke peringkat pasangan lelaki hendak mendekatkan ereksinya ke paras anggota sulit, pasangan wanita perlu melegakan pahanya bagi memudahkan proses berkenaan.

Paling penting ketika malam pertama ialah pasangan wanita perlu melegakan kemut bagi membolehkan ereksi lelaki dapat terlepas daripada ‘penahan’ iaitu selaput dara yang mengelilingi pembukaan faraj.

Jika terasa kesat untuk permulaan, geselan boleh dilakukan secara lembut dan sentuhan tubuh badan dilakukan serentak supaya rangsangan berlaku dan mukosa faraj menjadi lebih lembap serta memudahkan pergerakan zakar ke dalam faraj.

Andainya masih juga kesat, tidak salah untuk pasangan berkenaan menggunakan jeli bagi memudahkan lagi kemasukan zakar ke dalam faraj kerana apabila sudah ‘mengenali’ sentuhan pertama itu, mereka akan rasa yakin dan tidak teragak-agak mengulanginya mengikut kehendak dan cita rasa mereka.

Bagaimanapun, perlu diingatkan bahawa masalah boleh berlaku. Pasangan lelaki boleh terasa tertekan atau cemas kerana memikirkan tanggungjawab yang hendak dilakukannya, iaitu hubungan penetratif.

Jika berasa seriau, pasangan lelaki akan mudah hilang kawalan dan perasaan rangsangan menyebabkan ereksi yang membina itu terus kendur, sekali gus dia gagal melakukan tanggungjawab malam pertama kepada pasangannya.

Keadaan ini dikenali sebagai ‘mati pucuk malam pertama’. Perkara sama boleh berlaku kepada pasangan wanita. Jika seriau, dia tidak dapat mengawal pembukaan faraj dan ketika pasangan ingin menyalurkan ereksi, farajnya akan mencengkam tanpa kawalan yang dikenali ‘vaginismus’.

Petikan artikel:http://www.isteripuas.com

Nikmati hubungan seks yang luar biasa...isteri anda pasti tersenyum riang disamping mu..

How to Make First Sex Fabulous Sex

The heat is on. You can literally feel it arcing between you. Whether it’s an enticing stranger you’ve just met or a special someone you’ve been slowly getting to know, you’re aware that now is the time to take your connection to the physical level. You can sense that she’s about ready to hop into bed and you damn well know that you are. So how do you make this first time with someone new a glorious moment you’ll both fondly remember rather than a nightmare you’d just as soon forget?

The first thing to zero in on is attitude. What exactly is it you want from this coming sexual encounter -- a lusty one night romp or the beginning of a longstanding passionate relationship?

There certainly is nothing wrong with a one-night stand. There is something extremely exciting about sex with a stranger, with absolutely no strings attached. Many women feel this way, not only men. What we all have to be careful about is simply using the other person, treating them as an object only for our satisfaction.

No one likes being treated as an object. No one likes being used for someone else’s purpose. Men typically use women as sex objects. But just as often women treat men as success objects. What does it mean to treat a person as an object? It means you use that person to get what you want without particular regard to what happens to them or how they feel. At one extreme you would not even care if you actually cause harm. More frequently harm is not intended, but the well being of the person you are using is of little or no concern to you. What is of concern to you is to get what you want, which in this case is sex.

When you want sex and you do anything necessary to get it you are using the woman as a sex object. You may lie and otherwise be deceitful about what is really going on. You may pretend to care or be interested in her, but all you really want is to get laid. After you get what you want, you disappear and she never hears from you again. You don’t call. You may not even say hello on the street. You may feel contempt or disgust toward her for having had sex with you. But this is really a disguised form of self-contempt and self-hatred projected onto women. It is very unhealthy and in the long run will leave you alone, lonely, bitter and cynical. This is hardly a prescription for happiness.

Quick sex between consenting adults is not about using each other as an object, assuming both of you understand what is happening, and no deceit is involved. We call this scenario “no-strings sex.” With no-strings sex, both parties understand that it is not intended that you will ever see each other again. You do not exchange addresses or phones or personal histories. This situation ranks high on the list of most common fantasy for both men and women. The sex may be extremely hot and passionate. Both lovers may feel an extraordinary freedom and be willing to let go completely, dropping their usual sexual shyness and restraint. Often they will experiment with and allow themselves to enjoy what they would only dream of doing, but never allow themselves to do with someone they knew or were in an ongoing relationship with. They may experiment with things they did not even dream were possible.

There are only two rules for no-strings sex. They are very simple rules.

Rule #1: Mutual consent for everything is mandatory. By “mutual consent” we mean that all aspects of your lovemaking are agreed to by both. You meet together on the sexual playing field as equals. No one gets physically hurt. When your partner says “I don’t want to do that” or “stop, that hurts” you must stop instantly. This is where “no” always means no.

Rule #2: Don’t try to find her later!

The other type of first time encounter is with someone with whom you intend to have an ongoing relationship. We will call this scenario “relationship sex.” With relationship sex, it is understood by both of you that there may be an ongoing relationship after the sex. In fact, it would be quite normal for relationship sex to take place after you have been seeing each other for some time. In this scenario sex is not the start of the relationship, but a deepening of it. It is also quite common for a relationship to start with a sexual encounter. If the sex rocks the earth, or even if it is just pretty good, you may want to go further into relationship to see if you can connect on other important levels and make something work together in the longer run. This could evolve into living together or even marriage.

The first rule for no-strings sex also applies to relationship sex. 1. Mutual consent for everything is mandatory. In addition to this rule there are a few others to keep in mind. 2. Great respect is mandatory. 3. Great caring is mandatory. 4. Open, honest communication is mandatory. 5. Gentleness is used as required, and roughness is used as mutually desired.

The Rules

1. Mutual consent for everything is mandatory. If you do not both enjoy it, what is the point? Remember, we are not using each other, we are loving each other. It is certainly all right for one partner to try things because the other person likes it even if they don’t, but this is a gift freely given and cannot be required.

2. Great respect is mandatory. Respect implies that you are aware of what the other person wants. You are willing to discover what they are capable of and what their sexual limits are. Your lover may have been injured psychologically or emotionally from past relationships. In fact this will almost certainly be the case, almost everyone has had their heart broken at least once. At the extreme, they may have experienced sexual abuse as a child. They may feel insecure about their sexuality. They may suffer from low self-esteem as a lover. They may be quite inexperienced in sexual technique. You must be extremely patient and ever so sensitive to the messages they send out about how fast to proceed, what to do and not do. Talk openly to establish the boundaries of your sexuality. Then experiment to push back the boundaries at a pace you can both find comfortable and safe.

3. Great caring is mandatory. Love is always given and received as a gift. It has been said that there is no such thing as bad sex, that sex without love can still be great sex, but sex with caring adds a warmth that connects two hearts and souls together. This is sex beyond technique. Sex with caring leaves the lovers filled. Sex with love leaves the lovers overflowing. It is caring that moves sex beyond the physical to allow for the creation of a deeper spiritual connection. Most men want an emotional connection and most would welcome a more spiritual experience of sex, but they are afraid and they just haven’t learned how to do it yet. Most women quite frankly, require the emotional connection as the price of entry.

4. Gentleness is used as required, and roughness is used as mutually desired. With mutual consent anything goes. But it is usually best to start out with more gentleness and progress to more roughness only as you learn that she wants it and likes it. Many women like a playful roughness as long as they feels truly safe. But if you have not established a high degree of trust with her, roughness prematurely can end what could have been an excellent long-term sexually passionate relationship.

5. Open, honest communication is mandatory. Talk about sex. Tell each other what you like and dislike. A good way to do this is to always offer choices A and B and ask which she likes best. This avoids the damage to fragile egos that young men are so prone to when they are learning about a new lover. If a man hears, “I don’t like that” it is very easy for him to have his feelings hurt and this may cause him to withdraw, or get angry, or react in some dysfunctional way. But if you give your women, for example, the choice between fondling her breasts this way, or this way, and ask which is best, you will not have your feelings hurt, and you will quickly learn what she really likes. This is how a lover becomes a great lover.

If you need to have your imagination stimulated to know what to try, read any of several great lover’s manuals available in good bookstores everywhere. Then use the A-or-B technique to find out about your woman specifically. Here are a few titles to look for. You can order these from our web site if you can’t find them in your local bookstore.

“Soul Sex: Tantra for Two”, by Pala Copeland and Al Link

“The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers” by Margo Anand

“How to Make Love All Night (And Drive a Woman Wild: Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking)” by Barbary Keesling

“The New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld

“How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation” by Helen Singer Kaplan

Once you’ve honestly considered your attitude you can move into the physical aspects of loving: like the setting, foreplay, afterplay and all the juicy bits in between. In the East there is a long tradition of the warrior lover – a man who has prepared himself physically, emotionally and mentally for the great and glorious battle between the sheets. This is not for dominating or defeating your lover but for skillfully bringing out the best in both of you so you can rise to new heights in your sexuality.

The idea of creating the right ambience for lovemaking may seem artificial or calculated, but there is an art to great loving and why not bring out the artist in yourself? A secluded place, candlelight, music, wine, food and clean sheets may sound like a trite scene from an old James Bond movie but they still hold true. Women love to be adored and creating a special place for loving shows that you care about what they want too.

It has become common knowledge that foreplay is very important in bringing a woman to sexual satisfaction. She takes longer to become aroused to the point where she can match you in intensity of desire. But what is also essential is afterplay. When you’ve come to a happy climax don’t just roll over and go to sleep or get up and go home. Even though your hormones may be telling you you’re finished, your lover won’t be. Take the time and make the effort to show your appreciation and caring through some tender cuddling and soft words or by sharing some food and conversation. You’ll benefit too from staying in love’s sweet afterglow.

Finally, it shouldn’t have to be said but it still does, always, always practice safe sex. Use condoms and dental dams until you are certain you’re in a completely monogamous relationship and you’ve both had AIDS tests. Remember good first time sex with someone means no one gets hurt, during loving or afterwards.

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host Tantra Sacred Loving weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations around the planet. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website http://www.tantra-sex.com/ or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com Their book, Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, is published by New Page Books, 2003.

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Great Sex Life For Seniors

A good sex life for adults over 60 depends largely on health conditions and lifestyle. Younger folks generally have a hard time believing that their aging parents (or even grandparents!) might still be sexually active; the truth is only 5% of those considered over-the-hill feel that sex is only for the young ones. Having a sexual relationship is important, even if the couple is over 60. Romance, intimacy and sex go hand-in-hand—most couples have sex at least once, even three times a week. However, various health issues which commonly plague this age group may contribute to the loss of sexual drive.

The baby boomers who survived the flower-power days started sexual freedom over 40 years ago. For a lot of seniors over 60, the sexual revolution is still alive and kickin’ although it is an undeniable fact that a lot is also experiencing problems in getting the va-va-vroom back in the boudoir. What are these common problems? Read on and learn how to keep your sexual torch burning. Sexual arousal does not ebb as the person grows older. Aging is a period in life that every person will eventually go through—it does not mean that a person suddenly becomes physically or sexually unappealing or become less interested in sex as part of the aging process.

But, as a person ages, sex can be more challenging. Problems that can interfere with a senior’s sex life include: erectile dysfunction, bladder problems and disability, as well as asthma and heart problems. Arthritis, obesity, smoking, alcohol and a sedentary lifestyle also contribute to the decrease in one’s sexual drive. These conditions are easily treated with proper medication if addressed early. A common drug used by seniors is Viagra, the wonder pill for erectile dysfunction and impotence. A couple must be aware of each other’s physical conditions and problems, no matter how embarrassing it is (such as creaking bones and leaking bladder).

After all, honesty is the best policy—and being honest with your partner is one way to avoid being embarrassed with whatever ailment you may have. Slowing of responses during aging is normal. Sexual arousal may be harder to achieve—this too, is not impossible to overcome. Be open to your partner about what turns you on and what’s difficult for you. This may also be the time for you to experiment new and different positions that best suit your needs and physical condition. Books dealing with sex in later life are easily found in bookstores; articles and tastefully written materials are readily found on the internet, with vast collections of ideas about helpful positions and sex toys that may help increase one’s desires.

Couples therapy, as well as a trip to a sex therapist is also helpful for couples dealing with physical changes that are brought about by aging. Aging does not end sex. It should be a wondrous experience for people of any age and should only stop when a person decides to do so. Age does not dictate what is right or wrong; instead, it provides more opportunities to explore different ways to have a more enjoyable sex life. Just as with the young folks, a satisfying sex life is achieved by being open to one another, taking the time to talk and consider the needs of one’s partner, and being bold enough to experiment and have fun.